Monday, February 13, 2006

How changing my thinking changed my daughters behavior immediately

How changing my thinking changed my daughters behavior immediately.

Recently, my friend and I took my daughter to a special playground in a nearby mall. This is a nice “foam” playground for toddlers. My daughter, Karen, was having a nice time.

Then, she started following another girl around. What ever that girl was playing on, Karen thought she had to be on as well. At one point, the other little girl sat on top of a turtle’s head and was riding the turtle, so to speak. Karen proceeded to try and push the girl off so she could have a turn.

I looked at my friend and started to say “Karen always has to have her own way!” But, as the words started to come out of my mouth, I realized I shouldn’t say that. Why would I put such a bad label on one of God’s beloved children? God would never label Her children. Since we were created in the image and likeness of God, that means our only choice as Gods child is to have Gods qualities – being loving, gentleness, kindness, forgiveness, patience, etc.

All this was rushing through my mind within a second and instead of saying “Karen always has to have her own way!” I said “Karen always has… no! Karen does NOT have to have her own way, she listens to God.” Keep in mind that Karen could not hear me saying this because she was in the play area and we were sitting on the bench watching from the side.

The split second those words came out of my mouth, Karen’s entire demeanor changed. Her hands dropped by her side and she looked up and calmly walked away and played somewhere else and continued being patient for the next hour until we left.

Ok, so you may think it was just a coincidence that at the exact moment I chose to see her correctly – as the perfect child of God – she stopped her bad behavior. However, I must disagree. I could have chosen to see her negative traits and continued to label her as “naughty” “pushy” “impatient” etc. Then, her behavior would continue along those lines. But, every time I choose to see the perfect child that God created and KNOW that as Gods reflection her real nature is pure and innocent, her behavior changes immediately.

It’s not wishful thinking. It’s not hoping she’s innocent, peaceful, patient, etc. It is knowing it. I KNOW God created not only her that way, but each and every one of His/Her children that way. So, if you find there is someone in your life who has a few undesirable traits, try to see them as God sees them. Hold in thought all the good, wonderful God-like qualities they were created with. You will see a difference!

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